Waking up on a weekend morning, with the sun filtering through the shades, taking a moment to roll out of bed, meander to the coffee pot.
There is no sense of rushing, no sense of urgency on such days.
The day in front of you is slower, offering any and all possibilities
Why these mornings feel so lovely, because there is no urgency to them
During the workweek, the pace of life speeds up, the getting up is strewn with anxious feelings, the coffee cannot brew quickly enough
The day is choked with obligations, a sense of urgency
Urgency to get to where you are going, do what you do, eat when you have to eat, get home when you have to get home.
Sometimes this sense of urgency seeps into our weekends as well, when that happens when do you slow down?
What’s the rush?
Most things are not urgent, saving your child’s life as they step off the curb into an oncoming car, is urgent.
Braking the car quickly to prevent an accident, is urgent
Saving people from a fire is urgent.
Most of the day’s activities are not urgent, though we approach them as if they are.
Urgency stems from an uptight society, it is contagious
Consumed by so-called pressing things, meetings that have to be attended to, emails returned, all work related things seem important.
Home life can feel as pressured, homework completed, dinner eaten, dance class and maybe a yoga class, thrown in.
Then it is time to sleep, not the kind of sleep after a leisurely day, the sleep that gets shoe horned in so you can get up to race around again.
Your life does not need to be replete with urgency, since nothing is that critical.
Catch yourself being hurried; your breathing will be a telltale sign
Slow down, breathe deeply and fully and say to yourself “ It is not urgent”, “there is no need to rush”, “If I am late, or don’t finish that thing, what is the worst thing that will happen?”
Urgency is a state of mind that depletes your energy reserves, the energy required for experiencing joy.
Recipe: Breathing away urgency meditation
This meditation can be done anywhere and at anytime
Pause for a moment and place one hand on your chest and one hand just below the belly button
Continue to breathe normally and notice which hand is moving more.
If the top hand is moving and the bottom is not, then you are breathing with urgency or chest breathing.
If the bottom hand moves more, you are relaxed
If two hands move in unison, you are most likely experiencing a relaxed/alert state, especially when the shoulders expand outward rather than upward
Relaxed/alert state is when you are calm and awake, neither lethargic nor too energized.
If you are feeling stressed or urgent simply by changing your breathing pattern from chest breathing to belly or both, your sense of urgency will shift.
It is impossible to feel urgent and belly breathe at the same time
All you need is to pause, shift your breathing to include your belly.
Inhale belly expands, exhale belly retracts
Enjoy life more without urgency.