Should I go or should I stay?
Do you know when to throw in the towel? To acknowledge it is time to move on?
If you do decide to do so, are you a quitter, a failure who runs away from things when times are tough?
When is it right to stop and walk away?
Where should you look for guidance?
It might be as simple as you are looking in the wrong direction, outside, rather than inside.
The outside compares you to others, whose lives are in no way yours, setting norms and judging what you think you should be doing.
If you confess to the outside that you are finished, the outside will offer contradictory views, such as, ‘keep going’, ‘don’t quit’, ‘wait it out’ or ‘stop while you are ahead’, ‘you’ve done your best’.
What do you do with the outside response, other than pick the one that endorses your decision, or feel confused and stay put?
The only way to know is to turn inside, deep within, where there is often no obvious answer, yet it is there?
As when checking an egg, you don’t know if it is done until you poke a fork into it. You need to go inside when making big decisions about staying put or letting go.
Be aware you will not get the emphatic advice as you would get from the outside, this is why you keep looking outside, it deceives you into believing it knows what it is talking about.
But does is it really?
Loud and flamboyant is the outside voice. Yes, it is sexy and catches your attention.
Soft and quiet is the inside voice, speaking in our dreams, feelings, sensations and whispers.
Who do you listen to when seeking help, most likely the one who speaks with conviction, not the delicate voice sitting inside?
It takes a great deal of patience to listen inside, requiring stillness, quiet and waiting. The answer is not as immediate as the outside voice, yet the inside voice knows, because it is in you.
It knows because it lives inside of you, whether you like it or not, it is you.
So why would you search for an answer outside, without first checking inside?
Crazy as it may sound, check inside, wait and listen.
Flashy the inside may not be, though shrewd it is.
Are you done?
Check inside, wait and listen.
Recipe: Go or Stay Meditation
A meditation to help decide whether to leave or stick with a situation – relationships, job, career, home, business… anything you are questioning whether you need to change course.
Sitting in a space without any distractions.
Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths.
Once the mind begins to slow down, ask the question silently to yourself.
‘Help me decide whether to go or stay ’
Repeat 3 times and remain quiet and still
Using your breath or the Mantra ‘I am’ to gently move you away from the minds chatter and compulsion to answer.
Then ask again after a minute or so – 3x ‘ Help me decide whether to stay or go’ – do not analyze or try to answer the question – remain still.
Return to your breath again or mantra.
After 5 – 10 minutes (use a timer) gently begin to open your eyes and return to your daily activities.
Keep your awareness on clues throughout the day – maintaining calm and mindfully attending your day.
Do not put pressure on yourself to have to know.
Go inside, wait and listen.
Eventually you will know whether to stay or go