Habits whether good or bad, are just patterns.
Nothing more nothing less despite the heartache or pain they may cause.
Almost half of our behaviours are habits. Breaking bad habits is tough!
Habits are an unconscious action, reaction or thought repeated again and again.
Not in our awareness most of the time
Most of our habits were formed when we were young before the age of seven serving as comfort and a strategy to cope.
We cried to be fed, screamed to be seen, sucked on pacifiers and fingers to be soothed.
Shut down to feel safer and learned fear from our parents.
Your anxieties over money, relationships, or taking risks are frequently a product of your parents’ experiences.
Our culture taught us how to avoid boredom by seeking out distractions to occupy your mind.
Yesterday it was climbing trees, playing football, today it is grabbing for tablets or iPhones.
Our brains created habits to feel good and avoid feeling bad.
Now with age, we drink too much wine, are mesmerized by social media, eat to engorgement or hold in our feelings.
All these behaviours started out innocently, as a means to feel happy, then carried into an adulthood becoming our nemesis.
Clinging like shit to a shovel, making us feel bad, knowing we no longer want or need these habits, yet not having a clue of how to get rid of them.
Habits are merely routines shaped by our brains to create safety and conserve mental energy.
Begin with speaking of your habits with love and compassion; keep self-criticism out of it.
You were young when they wiggled their way into your brains circuitry, if you could choose your habits now, you would probably not choose most of your habits.
Be kind and see them for what they are.
Only then can habits begone.
Recipe: Changing your habits exercise
- Observe your habits then list the ones that are good for you (good) and those that aren’t (bad). For example, Like: wake up early and exercise daily, eating at the table. Don’t like: Drinks 5 cups of coffee a day, goes to bed late, eats fast food 3x a week.
- Once identified ask what it is you would like to add to your habit repertoire which is ‘good’ for you (drink 2 cups of coffee a day, go to bed an hour earlier, eat fast food 1x a month, or not at all)
- Pick one ‘good’ for your new habit.
- Implement daily for 45 days, it may take less or more days to take hold.
- You will know when they take hold, is when there is little to no resistance, you are doing it without thinking.
- All new habits require willpower at the beginning then with time willpower lessens; make sure the habit is small, not too big of a goal. For example, I want to lose 10 lbs. instead, I will eat on a smaller plate and add one vegetable/fruit to all my meals.
- Then once the habit is established add a new habit.