To live without guilt
What would that feel like?
What makes it so hard to stop the guilt?
Not all mammals experience guilt, humans do because they are driven by instincts and consciousness simultaneously.
Instincts to lash out at someone, conscious not to do so as it has negative repercussions.
A cat lives instinctually wakes ups, eats, jumps around, catches a mouse, and slumbers back to the couch for a rest.
Do you think a cat feels guilty for sleeping all day or maiming the mouse?
How about guilt for not participating in the upkeep of the house?
Not a chance.
Cats don’t because they do what feels right.
A cat does not ponder their existence, purpose, or meaning of life.
Now let’s switch the cat with a human, the human who sleeps all day has to be very sick or she/he is lazy.
Catching a mouse would not be appropriate, if not downright sociopathic.
There is a rare person who could exist like a cat and not feel guilt, boredom and eventual depression.
A human differs from a cat, solely based on the size of the cortex (the outer layer of the brain); the part of the brain that thinks and observes.
Humans get to feel guilty, how lucky are we? Not and most guilt is unnecessary and a waste of time and energy.
Our feelings of guilt are based on 3 Shoulds:
- We should do something, but don’t know what.
- We know what we should be doing, but don’t want too.
- We did something we should not have done.
To live without guilt we need to stop and challenge the shoulding.
Who is the hell is it who told me ‘I SHOULD DO THAT OR SHOULDN’T DO THAT’.
Ask yourself, is it my should or other’s shoulds. All shoulds came from somewhere else.
To live without guilt, begin with removing the word should from your vocabulary.
You see, guilt loves the word should, it thrives on it, like a parasite.
Stop shoulding and guilt loses its life source.
Recipe: Without Guilt Meditation
When feeling guilty.
Close your eyes.
Take 3 deep cleansing breaths
Ask yourself “What am I feeling?”
Ask, “ Where in my body am I feeling this guilt?”
Feel the guilt, hold onto it, embrace it and cradle it.
Take it and place it in front of you.
Ask it to leave, “You are no longer needed”.
Once it leaves, take deep cleansing breaths.
Feel how your body now has lost its tension simply by letting the guilt go