Flight delays teach patience
Delayed gratification teaches tolerance
A delayed visit from a friend teaches deep breathing
Delay in the purchase of your home teaches unflappability
A delayed birth of your baby teaches acceptance
Delayed adolescents teaches playfulness or trepidation of growing up
Delayed happiness teaches fatalism
Delaying the inevitable teaches fear
Then what does a delay in your good health teach
Or the delay of the perfect life you once had before your loved one died teach?
Lessons learned when a prosperous career or a loving marriage is delayed are some of the most difficult ones to absorb.
Delays are inevitable, yet are a constant source of torment for many.
Though there are the lucky few who roll with the punches, easily accepting these interruptions?
What is a delay?
It is merely a pause in a plan, though can create a powerful sense of losing control, being disempowered.
Delays are unexpected interruptions in your timetable. They are reminders that life does not always go according to plan.
These delays are the greatest teachers of tolerance, patience, and most importantly not to take life too seriously.
They are the lessons prompting you to loosen your grip on man-made schedules; realizing that gripping on to trajectories are a set up for disappointment and frustration.
Delays teach you to ride the wave, with agility, foreseeing the possibility that you might get swept underneath.
The beauty of learning these lessons is the cultivation of the trust that you will at some point get back up on the wave again, chances are it will be a different wave but it will get you to where you want to go.
Delays impart the resolve to manage life’s rollercoaster ride, creating flexibility and belief that at the end of the day things work out.
Life is about delays, the sticky, messy sweet syrupy gunk that clings to anything within its path.
Life is less about things being flawless; it is more about accepting life for what it is, whatever happens.
Delays are fortuitous adventures, unplanned, unknown and unexpected, their spontaneous nature is what creates the energy of life. They are the seeds of creativity and inspiration; neither of these can be planned.
As difficult as a delay may seem in that moment, remember it is an opportunity that takes you to places you would never of experienced had gone according to plan.
Embrace delays, listen and learn from them, as they can be your greatest teachers.
Recipe: Delaying Regret Meditation
This meditation will teach you the art of delaying something that you may regret, whether it is saying something unkind, purchasing something you don’t need, making an impulsive decision, grabbing for that piece of chocolate or a drink.
Practice taking long deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth.
When confronted with a situation that evokes agitation, take 3 deep breaths, walk away for a moment and then decide what to do.
Those 3 breaths may be enough to delay an impulsive reaction or if not, take a walk which should relax your nervous system, then decide what to do next.