Often when I relax, I feel I am wasting time
Sitting and staring out the window, wasting time
Reading in the afternoon, wasting time.
Having a coffee with a friend during the day wasting time, drinking by myself even more wasteful
Meditating wasting time
Taking a nap wasting time
Watching a movie wasting time
Sleeping-in, wasting time
I am wasting time; the other side of the coin is the productive time.
When productive we are, working, writing, planning, preparing, reading for work, checking emails, responding back to people, cleaning, organizing…
During productive time, I cannot feel guilt or lazy, because I am being industrious, guilt plays no place in this kind of time.
Wasting feels like you are not doing, while being productive you are doing.
Wasting time is replete with guilt feelings, as my thoughts hammer me with what I ‘should’ ‘need to’ ‘or ‘have to do’.
Is this why I limit my wasting time? I don’t like feeling guilty.
The problem I have is, I like the wasting time activities; I like to read, sit in the sun and drink a cup of coffee. I love taking a nap during ‘working time’ and staring out the window.
Meditation is easy for me, because it is part of my job, I can call it productive time. For the majority of people sitting down to meditate might be considered wasting time.
What is wrong with wasting time? These are the times, I tend to be the most creative and at peace during these times, but that is only if I let myself be relaxed.
The problem is not taking time to relax, it is the subtext of what wasting time means in the modern world; you are idle. Wasting time rarely elicits emotions of pride either by the person being slothful or to others watching.
Yet, wasting time moments feel like I am doing something wrong, the child caught with the hand in the sweetie jar, I should be doing, instead of doing nothing.
The genius that I am decided if ‘wasting time’, connotated a negative feeling then why not just change the word to ‘spending time’. Let us see how this makes us feel.
Spending time on the couch
Spending time re-reading that novel
Spending time sitting still
Spending time in the bath
Spending time calling my mom
Think about it, spending time is what we do, we spend time at work, spend time practicing an instrument, spend time painting, spend time at the gym…
By spending time, we are being, not doing, our body is in the present, and our mind is also present.
What would you think about eliminating ‘wasting’ and ‘productive’ time, and creating one word for both ‘spending time’?
There is no longer either ‘productive or wasting time, as there is no discrimination between the two – one is bad and one is good. When you spend time it just is, a neutral statement.
Everything we do is ‘spending time’ – no judgments, no stress, no irritation… no guilt.
Let us simply change the words we use to describe what we do with our time.
Spend some time thinking about that!
Recipe: Spending Time Meditation
Find a quiet space, take 3 deep breaths
Repeat to yourself, ‘ I am spending time with myself”, repeat x3
Repeat to yourself, ‘ I am spending time alone’, repeat x3
Repeat to yourself, ‘ I am a spending time in stillness’, repeat x3
Repeat to yourself, ‘ I am spending time with me’, repeat x3
Take the next 5 minutes, sitting is silence, if your mind wanders into thoughts or guilt mode, simple start from the beginning, ‘I am spending time with myself’ …
Observe your guilt, or need to be doing, and come back to what you are spending time on.
No longer will you be wasting your time or being productive, spend your time living.