Month: April 2016

Tortoise or hare?

hare or tortoiseAre you a Tortoise or a Hare?

A Tortoise peeks it’s head out of its shell looks around, walks a few steps and retreats back into its shell.

A Hare gets up runs fast and furious, always in forward motion, rarely stopping for a breath.

Are you a Tortoise or a Hare?

I am a Tortoise, I like to step out into the world, do my stuff and then retreat back into a quiet place. I require rejuvenation to move forward again, I take another step forward, some days I take two, before I pull my head back in for rest.

The timeout for a Tortoise is not laziness, though in our culture, it might be perceived to be. It is a moment to reflect, rest the mind and remove yourself from the chaos of the outside world.

The shell symbolizes safety from too much stimulation, judgments of others and a self-nurturing space.

If you are a Hare, you seek out stimulation, you thrive off it, and it gives energy. Your need to be alone may be minimal.

The Hare appears to be the successful one, due to its speed and forward momentum. While the Tortoise is slow and methodical, it just takes its time to get to where it’s going.

There are times I wish I were a Hare, I look in awe at their relentless activities, and how they keep their sparkle. As Tortoise I cannot cope with all the busy-ness, when I am full, I seek solitude.

Oh, I wish I were a Hare, it would make life easier, though I know cannot be.

This acknowledgment helps me to accept the fact I am a Tortoise and I will never be a Hare… maybe in spurts, maybe on a really good day. But for the most part I am Tortoise.

Once I can accept who I am, I can then become myself and be who I am according to my true nature.

Are you a Tortoise or a Hare, or maybe something else?


Recipe for Self-Acceptance:

First step – Acknowledge the Whole self … the good, bad, ugly, beautiful, embrace it all.

Second step – Beware when you attempt to do, or be something that does not feel right. Pause and ask yourself, “is this me?” or “is it me trying to be someone else?”

Third step – Use a Mantra to bring you back to yourself “ I Am That”, or “ I Am This”, or “ I Love Me” or “I Can Be Myself”.


Moments in time

Moments in timeLife can change in an instant.

Just in one moment in time

The toss of a coin, the spin of the dice, the flick of a switch, a life changing decision

You find yourself powerless, reeling from the unfairness, cast into a state of void and panic, or a state of paralytic joy.

What next?

How to cope?

Wishing with all your hearts desire for things to be the way they were, or fearing you will have to go back.

We all know what this feels like. None of us are immune to this feeling.

A feeling that stops us in our tracks, catches our breath and stops us for a moment from having mindless thoughts.

It is a moment of pause, a moment to be fully within yourself.

A moment you can actually feel and hear your heart beating. There is no movement outwardly, your innards become heightened and strangely you feel your body holding you.

Sounds become muffled, vision narrow and touch numbed.

It feels like you are sitting in a fish bowl looking out as a spectator, rather than a participant of life.

That moment in time, when time stops, stillness pervades… you are with yourself.

These moments remain etched in our body’s memories, not in our mind.

They are moments revisited with a slight sound or a smell.

These memories, though painfully sad or joyous, are felt with such depth and power that they create aliveness within us.

For that moment our body, mind and soul are one, united together to hold you up or show you off.

There is no vying for dominance, they create a united front.


Recipe for coping with moments in time:

Take a moment to pause, take a deep breath, allow the release of the air to induce calmness throughout your body.

When calm we allow our emotions to settle, before acting.

Do not attempt to deal with it on an intellectual basis for now, sit with the feelings that arise.

Take another deep breath.

Choose the mantra: “I am powerful”, “Go slowly” or “Keep my head up and my heart open” or create a mantra that best resonates with you.

Breathe in and say, “I am” or “Go” or “Keep my head up”.

Breathe out and say, “powerful”, “slowly” or “and my heart open”.

Repeat 10 to 20 times.

Take a moment and return to your natural breathing.

You are now ready to cope with the change, relaxed and with clear thinking.

Apr 17, 2016

Doing nothing

doingDoing nothing in a doing world

When is not doing, not lazy?

When is not doing, relaxing?

When is not doing, without guilt?

It is a challenge in a doing world to keep doing, even when we are trying not to do.

If this sounds like a Dr Seuss riddle, then now you know how it feels to do nothing.

Doing nothing is filled with twists and turns; the minds’ addiction to doing becomes anxious, taking you on random quests, attempting to get you into doing again.

Even if that doing is thinking about doing.

By the time you are finished doing nothing, you are exhausted, as if you have run a mind marathon of things you should be doing.

You might as well be doing, you decide.

Is it worth the effort to do nothing, you ask?

Doing nothing is the space between the doings; it opens up a gap, even if just a tiny crack, to different ideas.

Doing nothing pushes the pause button on your habitual thoughts, the thoughts that you think of all the time.

Doing nothing is loving and compassionate; it calms your body and soul, to love more deeply.

Doing nothing is self-nurturing; it fosters self-love without judgment and condemnation.


Recipe for Doing Nothing:

Decide to give yourself a day, a few hours, or 20 minutes of nothing time, you choose.

Sit quietly and close your eyes and direct your attention to the thoughts, feelings and sensations arising within – positive and/or negative.

Say out loud or silently to yourself, “ I give myself permission to do nothing”.

Despite your mind attempting to move you into the doing state, remain steadfast.

Do not despair if this takes multiple attempts, until your mind can settle.

Have nothing day today.

Reaching higher

Reaching higherWhat is it that stops you from reaching higher?

Is it the voice from your childhood?

The voice from your parents, friends or is it your own voice?

“I can’t”

It might not be a voice but a feeling, a feeling of fear, apprehension, and unease.

A feeling of inadequacy or doubt in your abilities.

“I am not capable”

Why is it that you give the power over to these voices and feelings, when faced with a possibility of reaching higher?

Reaching higher is your right.

Reaching higher nurtures your confidence.

Reaching higher empowers you.

Reaching higher teaches you about you.

Reaching higher stimulates your creativity.

Reaching higher stirs the pot of emotions, which has settled deep within.

By reaching higher, yes, you step into an unfamiliar space that can rock your world.

If you do not stir the pot every once in awhile you will become stagnant and stale.

Reaching higher means believing that you are more.

You can reach for more, that there is no limits to how far you can go.

Replace the voice with,

“I can”

If you don’t at least try, how will you ever know how high you can go?


Recipe: “I Can” Meditation

Take a moment and close your eyes.

Take 3 deep breaths.

Inhale, reach your arms up as if you are reaching for that possibility and silently say “I“.

Exhale, float your arms down, encircling that possibility in your hands and silently say, “can”.

Do this 3 times and pause for a moment.

Open your eyes.

Then give that thing a try.

Taking it personal

taking it personalTaking things personal

Let’s talk about the impact other’s moods have on us.

It is without doubt most of us don’t like it when someone is irritable towards us.

It bothers us, it feels like we contributed to the bad mood, we take it to heart… take it personal.

As a result you try a variety of strategies to appease that person with apologies and/or complements…

Wrapping yourself into a pretzel shape in an attempt to dodge the discomfort you feel.

You might even carry the residue of the other’s mood with you, taking on responsibility, possibly questioning your own worthiness, with self-blame and guilt.

During which time the other person’s mood will inevitably shift, they forget and move on. While you remain bruised and deflated.

Why take things so personal when other’s moods usually are not about you?

It is a reflection of them, in other words it is not yours to own.

You are responsible for your moods, as they are responsible for theirs.

Taking things personal is a soul destroyer.

Next time you are in the midst of another person’s irritability, take pause and look into their eyes and speak silently.

I do not own their mood and let it go.