Expecting others to have the same standards as you
Expecting what you give, you will get
Expecting to be disappointed
That eventually others will let you down
Expecting negative outcomes
Expectations are inherent in all of us, perhaps one of the main contributing factors to our suffering.
No matter what happens, expectations are rarely met.
You are forever stuck in a spiral of negative emotions, seeking out negative outcomes at every corner.
People, whose expectations are high, find themselves unable to delegate, lacking in trust, and are notoriously unhappy and anxious.
Those around these people can be stripped of their confidence, as they are not trusted to meet the high standards, or feel they are never good enough.
Expectations zap life’s vibrancy, the very essence of happiness, from both the one expecting and the one being expected of.
Expectations are judgments.
But it doesn’t have to be like this. See how:
Eliminating expectations mindfulness exercise
Since all of us having varying degrees of expectations, start with noticing when you are expecting.
Then take a deep breath, close your eyes and visualize a white board with that specific expectation written on it.
Take the eraser and wipe it off, take another breath and visualise write, “ I expect nothing”
You can continue saying silently to yourself “ I expect nothing”.
With time and patience, your expectations will diffuse making life about being, rather than the future impulse, to expect.