Starting of a new year, the birth of a baby, a marriage, a new home, a divorce, a new job or a loss of one, a death, a recently diagnosed illness…
All of these, whether, considered positive or negative, are new beginnings.
They take you from where you had been, the familiar, the known… to a place you have never touched, and a place full of hopes, dreams, fears or sadness. It is impossible to predict how you will experience this new beginning, whether it will come with ease or great difficulty.
Preparing yourself for the outcome of a new beginning by planning, creating expectations or a figurative spread sheet of what may likely occur, will only leave you more lost and confused.
These events are called new beginnings, because they are new, not old, they have never have been tried and tested before. Even if you have been married or had a baby before, the next time will never be exactly like the first. Your new home or lover cannot possibly replicate the one before. A death of a loved one takes on different shapes and forms from previous losses. If you fall ill your experience cannot compare to other’s who have the same diagnosis.
Your New Beginnings are yours alone, no one else’s.
Too many of your resources are expended on trying to predict the future that leaving little energy left to allow the new beginning to take shape gradually.
Gradually is the key word in coping with life’s New Beginnings.
Since there is no way of knowing the outcome of anything in life, then you can only take it moment-by-moment or day-by-day.
Practice approaching each day as a New Beginning, despite routines appearing not to waver, look upon it as a fresh start with curious eyes, this will dissipate the fears of the unknown and allow the emotional baggage of the previous day to slowly fade away.
Become curious, curiosity removes the fear and heaviness from what you are going through, no matter how painful it may be.
By starting with the day, it is much easier to approach more challenging situations with grace and patience.
Start the day with 3 deep breaths in front of your mirror with a mantra of your choice perhaps “today is a new beginning”