Creates tension, conflict: the antithesis of inner peace?
Inner peace is when you no longer grasp for ‘There’.
‘Here’ becomes just fine.
I have been grasping for ‘There’ since I moved to the UK, ‘There’ was my home and family in New Jersey. A dilemma, with no peace wherever I was. Until now, as I feel home is both New Jersey and London.
Grasping creates a tension between the mind and the body, which leads to stress and inner turmoil.
Grasping is the mind reaching out of the window for ‘There’ striving, formulating ideas, problem solving, distracting away from the present moment. It’s an incessant tailspin of tension.
As I sit, my mind wanders distracted with petty concerns, “what to eat, what to do, how to dress, which way to turn, stay inside go outside”. I am trapped in ‘Here’ and need to get out, being ‘Here’ creates a constant state of flux.
Do you recognise this?
My body feels tired and tense, it only can experience ‘Here’, it is too busy performing pragmatic things, such as; digesting food, regulating my body temperature, and fighting foreign agents.
Bodies can be viewed as the wise grandparent, with many years to perfect itself, it knows better. Whilst the mind is in its early years, very much like an unruly two year old, it has had a lot less time to evolve.
Yet, we allow the mind, or child to take precedence over the wise old body.
It is not about either, the mind or the body, having superiority over one another, it is about them working in unison.
Though the mind believes it knows better, and it will attempt to bring the body with it, though body can’t, it is impossible, so the mind ventures off alone.
Our suffering is a result of the two being at odds. Just as two siblings argue and bicker, one seems to know better, the other may be left behind, the quiet one, this one gets consumed by the other, more rambunctious, forceful sibling.
Our bodies, sit back, keeping things running, it asserts itself, without flamboyance, though very much like the passive sibling, it can be taken over, subdued, losing its sense of importance.
The key to peace of mind and body is evident, take control of your mind; do so by teaching, nurturing, guiding the mind to work with the body.
The breath plays one of the largest roles in bridging the gap between the body and mind, the gap closes momentarily when you consciously breathe.
As your mind begins to drift away on a meandering path towards ‘there’, breathe deeply and pull it back. Overtime the mind reminds you when it is out of control. Those moments when, you tell yourself to stop thinking too much, is the point your mind begins to join with the body, rather than requiring centre stage.
It’s your choice to be ‘There’ or ‘Here’ start by taking 5 deep breaths.