Expectations, we all have them.
Expect a good meal when we go out.
Expect a gift in return if we give one.
Expect a restful or a memorable holiday.
Expect your children will always be in contact.
Expect love everlasting, on your wedding day.
Expect a gesture of love in return if you offer one.
Expect recognition if you have worked hard on something.
Expect that each time you exercise, it will leave you feel satisfied.
Expectations can destroy us, they frame our world, can expose a gaping hole, leaving you feeling tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, anxious and constantly disappointed.
Expectations create a rollercoaster of emotions. There is rarely a moment you will not feel let down, criticised, unloved, unworthy, under valued, and not acknowledged.
Buddhist philosophy speaks of having no expectations, maintaining a neutral position on everything you encounter. So you are leaving space or an opening to allow things to unfold organically, rather than controlling it with an expectation or a judgement.
Maintaining neutrality, is a learned skill, it is about noticing when you are judging or having an expectation, halting the process and remind yourself you do not know what will happen.
When I expect nothing, I can enjoy the moment because my mind is open to possibilities. It’s like starting with a blank canvas where anything is possible.
Without expectations, you give yourself permission and those around you; the chance to be themselves, nothing needs to be contrived. It just is.
This week is the yoga challenge, we enter without expectations but just to be, whatever your personal challenge may be.
So this week whatever you may doing, try to commit to no expectations for an event, an exercise class, a business meeting or just when start your day. Keep your mind wide open to all the possibilities that await you.
Peace and expect nothing